We are coming up on 2 months as a fam of 5 and we have been getting lots of questions regarding “how things are going” ; ) So Part 6 of our journey is a little update on how Noley is adjusting and what is going on with our adoption process.
(If you are new, you can read a bit about N’s adoption story here.)
First… how lucky am I to have this boy in my life?
Photo cred: TG Photography
Second: I really appreciate the outpour of love and support I have received. I never knew how many adoption-hearted people were in my midst until I started to share our story. That is something that is so neat about social media — it brings people together in the most special of ways, who may never have been brought together otherwise. The fact that so many of you, without “knowing me,” have felt comfortable emailing me with questions about adoption or to share your own personal adoption stories makes me so happy.
A few questions that we have been getting frequently, and their answers:
Q: How is Nolan adjusting?
A: Nolan came right into our family as if he’s always been here. He’s done so, so well. Everyone says he is the happiest most smiley baby they have ever seen and we agree. He sleeps great other than when he’s teething, which he’s doing currently. His first tooth was his lower left canine which I find so hilariously random. He’s working on his other 3 “fangs” right now, so we may have a Dracula baby on our hands here in a bit : ) He just started sitting up unassisted, which (at 5 months old) makes him both our earliest teether and our earliest sitter. #fistbump
Q: How is life with 3 kids?
A: Loud. So loud. And so much fun. Chaotic, messy, giggly, screamy, laundry-as-far-as-the-eye-can-see fun. It does add an extra element of difficulty in the times that we are trying to get out the door, and there is much less “down time,” but I have personally found the transition from 2 to 3 easier than the transition from 1 to 2. But then again, Nolan is so stinkin’ easy, I may not be getting the true experience.
Q: Did you choose the name Nolan?
A: We did not. Actually, we had a boy name all picked out before we were matched. After meeting him and learning his name… he is just so totally a Nolan. And, funnily enough, the name we had picked is so not him.
Q: How are things with his Birth Mom?
A: Whew. Multi-faceted question (but one we’ve been getting a lot). Things are great in the sense that we love her, she loves Nolan, and we are learning more every single day what it means to show grace to someone because God has shown grace to us. We are being stretched and shaped and tested and that is one of the big reasons we said YES when we were called to open adoption. Our hearts needed stretching and shaping and testing and they are getting it! One way for you to support us would be to join us in praying for N’s birth mom.
Q: Where are you at in the legal process?
A: Noley’s adoption is not finalized, however we are getting closer. We have had one post-placement visit and have two more on the schedule before we will finalize at the court house. On that day, he will officially become a Vining. I have been told that finalization day for the adoptive parents feels like “letting out a breath you didn’t know you were holding for months.” We look forward to celebrating with our family and friends when that time comes!
Q: Will you adopt again?
A: You guys are so ballsy for asking this one ; ) Ha!! We do not have any plans in place right now, as our current kiddos are very little, but we are being sensitive to where the Lord calls us and we feel that adoption and possibly fostering are a big part of our family’s story moving forward.
Here are some photos from the Sip & See that our friends threw us last weekend!
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